Let each esteem others better than himself. Philippians 2:3
A Pew Research Center study last fall revealed the way our society is changing its view of marriage. Nearly 40 percent of respondents said that marriage is becoming obsolete. Cohabitation has become the norm, and many people are accepting the view that wedding bells aren’t needed to have a family.1
It’s incorrect to view love as something we fall into and out of, as if we were at the mercy of some kind of romantic fate. To love someone faithfully and continually is more a matter of choice than of chemistry. It’s more volitional than emotional. We decide that if God loves us, we can love others. We choose to love just as we choose to be patient and kind. We determine to put others before ourselves as the Bible commands in Philippians 2.
John MacArthur makes an unusual statement in his book, Different by Design: “When you choose to love someone who is no longer attractive to you, he or she will soon become attractive. Loving as Christ loves does not depend on what others are in themselves, but entirely on what we are in Christ.”
Love is a choice we make–it is an act of our will as well as our heart.