But if we confess our sins, he will forgive our sins, because we can trust God to do what is right. He will cleanse us from all the wrong we have done. 1 John 1:9
Why admit my wrongs? We gain healing that the Bible promises. James 5:16 tells us to admit our wrongs, our sins to one another. When you confess to God, he forgives you of sins confessed to Him, but in James 5:16 says to confess one to another for healing. Sharing our secrets, struggles and failures with another is part of God’s plan of our healing process. We gain freedom because our secrets have kept us in chains, bound up, frozen and unstable to move in our relationships. We also gain support when we share our inventory with another person. They can challenge you when denial surfaces. Have you chosen someone? Our admission of our wrongs must be to God, yourself and someone you trust.
When I was going through my inventory God would take me to scriptures about His judgment. These were additions to my inventory that He would bring to my mind of certain instances of ‘my part’. God may do this for you as well because we all have a part or a role that we played in our past dysfunction.
I will share this portion of my past and what I am about to share was hard for me to face as well as admit…..as I share this I am embarrassed, and like me, you may have a hard time facing your past wrongs, but it leads to our road of healing.
I was in a relationship that to me was very significant. We were two broken people bringing our dysfunction to each other trying to make something work. Our brokenness created a lot of conflict. One way he dealt with the conflict was division, whether it was removing himself from the room, leaving to stay at a hotel, to finally making good on his threats to finally leave for good. One night I had enough of the division…..he went to sleep in another room. I wanted to make a point that I had enough, so I took a mop and struck the couch he was laying on. The mop broke into pieces and a part of the mop barely missed his face. I am not justifying my actions, but what was happening is that his actions were triggering a rejection wound that I had from my birth. I had been physically and emotionally rejected by a parent and when I sensed I was being rejected, I lashed out in my hurt. So when God reminded me of this incident, I was completely humbled, after the fact I saw how out of control I was. In fact, God said to me, if he had done something like that to you, it would terrify you and you would most likely be afraid of him of physically harming you and you would have trouble ever trusting him. WOW, I cried and cried, I had not been physically abusive to anyone and that was a hard thing to admit, I hurt myself and someone else and I was ashamed and embarrassed. I can’t believe I did that!
Thank goodness for recovery because I have learned a lot about my past, myself and have a greater understanding about my unmanageable behavior. I walked away from that relationship admitting that I was a 50% contributor to all the wrong, I had ‘my part’. I could never admit my wrong doing or make amends to that person because I was asked to never contact them. I admitted my wrongs to God, to myself and to another. My amends to that person was a letter that was never mailed. That will come later in our journey, the amends portion helped me to move on and accepting forgiveness from God and for myself.
We are all subject to sin and have been contributors of destruction in our relationships. Here is where honesty is important, no matter how painful, we must face our part if we want healing. Remember inventory is balanced, it is who has hurt me and who have I hurt? Please find someone you trust and confess your sins and pray so that you may be healed.
What areas of your life have you been able to turn over and surrender to Jesus Christ?
List areas of your life that you are still holding on to, attempting to control on your own power.
Explain the difference in seeing a need for change and being entirely ready to accept positive changes in your recovery.
Its very important that you allow God to replace your character defects with positive changes. What are some positive changes that you could make in your recovery? in your family? in your job?
Yes, each of us will give an account of himself to God. Romans 14:12
How are you doing so far? Do you find this process painful? Are you surprised by what God is revealing to you? Are you find you are more clarity?
God so loves you……..I spoke at a prison a few months ago, I was speaking to over 100 broken men, I left them with a beautiful song that God wanted me to share with them and I want you to experience the song too. God was not surprised by you, he knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb and he knew every decision you would make, every failure and every victory and he has great plans for you, it’s not too late for you, don’t quit and don’t give up!
Youtube —I knew what I was getting into by Misty Edwards.
God so loves you………….