Evaluate all my relationships. Offer forgiveness to those who have hurt me and make amends for harm I’ve done to others, except when to do so would harm them or others.
How do we make amends? You must face the hurts, resentments and wrongs others have caused you, or wrongs that you have caused others. Holding on to resentments not only blocks your recovery, but blocks God’s forgiveness in your life. Do not judge others and God will not judge you, do not condemn others, and God will not condemn you, forgive others and God will forgive you. Luke 6:37
Make a list. On your inventory, there is a list of people who have harmed you and there should be people you have harmed. Do you need to add anyone else? Before you offer your amends, you should meet with someone accountable because they can encourage you by giving you their valuable objective opinion, which will ensure that your motives stay on track. You need to offer amends humbly, sincerely and willingly. Do not offer excuses or attempt to justify your actions. Focus on your part and do not expect anything back. This step requires courage, good judgment and willingness. Also, it’s key to be prayerful, ask Jesus for his guidance and direction. This crucial part of recovery and being humble and offering forgiveness/amends will open doors of the impossible for you.
Explain how holding on to your past resentments and guilt has blocked your recovery?
Now you are ready to make a list:
I owe amends to:
I need to forgive:
In the amends process, we use a phrase, ‘not for them’. Amends is focused on your part? Explain what ‘not for them’ means.
What does ‘don’t expect anything back’ mean to you?
I hope this song helps you in your process of amends !