“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” (Matthew 5:9 NIV)
When you are in conflict, concentrate on reconciliation rather than resolution. There’s a big difference: Reconciliation means to re-establish the relationship, but resolution means to resolve every issue by coming to agreement on everything.
That’s simply not going to happen. I don’t care if you both love the Lord or are deeply in love with each other; there are some things you’ll never agree on, because God has wired each of us differently.
But you can disagree without being disagreeable — that’s called wisdom. The Bible says in James 3, “Wisdom is peace loving and courteous. It allows discussion, and it is willing to yield to others.”
The Bible says it’s wise to compromise. You can have unity without uniformity. You can walk hand-in-hand without seeing eye-to-eye. You can have reconciliation without resolution of every issue.
When we focus on the relationship, the issues often become insignificant. This is my challenge to you: In a world filled with conflict, war, prejudice, violence, partisanship, and broken relationships, commit to becoming an agent of reconciliation.
It is no accident that the first letter of P.E.A.C.E represents God’s goal for us to be peacemakers. It’s always more rewarding to resolve the conflict than to dissolve the relationship.
My pastor coins a phrase of giving up your right to be right, which is simply teaching us to position ourselves as the peacemaker. At the end of the day what does it matter if you are right or wrong. Lately, I just say to God, ‘you know the truth and if you want to reveal the truth, then that is totally up to you’ and I can let go of it. Since having ill parents it has put me in a place of asking myself what really matters most at the end of the day. I am grateful the experience to help me put things in perspective.